Introduction
Love is a word you must have heard from people of every age group. Nowadays, in every street corner, every alley and neighborhood, every village, and city or country, you’ll find people—from young to old—who are in love with someone. Some are in love with one person, while others may be involved with more than one; some people are in it just for fun, while others are deeply serious about it. Sometimes, this ‘just for fun’ approach comes from the guy, sometimes from the girl, and sometimes even from both.
Blind Devotion: When Love Becomes an Obsession
Some people become so deeply involved in their emotions that they distance themselves from their family, friends, and relatives, even viewing them as enemies. Anyone who tries to explain things to them becomes, in their eyes, the biggest enemy. Their entire focus centers around their partner, who becomes everything to them. They feel as if their partner is someone from another world—someone special and loyal, even to the extent of seeing them as an angel. But when this same partner betrays them, they end up harming themselves in various ways—some attempt suicide, some become aimless and lost, while others sink into depression, isolating themselves from the world. After such heartbreak, they struggle to trust anyone again, as their hearts are deeply wounded, leading them to believe that everyone in the world is deceitful.
Example: How a Broken Heart Can Make Us Lose Trust in the World.
Neha, a college student, was in a relationship with her friend Rahul. Rahul broke her trust and left her. Since that day, Neha started distancing herself from her friends and family because she believed that if Rahul could break her trust, then no one in the world could be trusted. This is a real example that shows how a broken heart can lead someone to lose trust in the world.
Cycles of Hurt: When People Pass Their Pain onto Others
Then there are some people who don’t go down the path of suicide or depression but instead start playing with others’ trust. Their mindset is, ‘If this happened to me, then I’ll do the same to others.’ Rather than learning from their first mistake, they repeat the same actions with others.
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But if we ask these people, are they really doing the right thing? Is it fair to think that others should go through the same pain we’ve endured? These are people who want to leave the scars of their own hearts on the hearts of others.
Example: When Pain Shapes Perception: The Cycle of Hurt in Relationships.
Ravi is another example, who was betrayed by his girlfriend in college. Since then, he believed that “love is just betrayal,” and because of this, he started treating every new girl like just a time pass. His mindset became that love doesn’t really exist, and that people are only with each other for their own interests. Once the interest ends, the partner changes. In some ways, this is true. Nowadays, many people are only together for their own interests, and once that interest ends, they move on. However, this doesn’t mean that the pain we felt should be given to others. What should have been understood here is that the pain he went through shouldn’t be passed on to someone else. But such people only take revenge for their own pain and try to give that pain to everyone else.
Shocking Realities: When Relationships Push People Against Their Family & Friends”
Besides this, there are also people who make their own family their enemy. These are individuals who either run away to get married or live together without marriage, which is now called a live-in relationship. However, there are some young people who are not yet old enough to marry, and these individuals often use dishonest means to meet with their partners. They might steal or lie to get money from home to buy gifts or throw parties for their partners, hiding it from their family. They tell various lies to keep their family from finding out.
If their family does find out and tries to stop them from meeting their partner, they sometimes start to see their family as the enemy. Many real-life cases exist where people have taken drastic steps, even harming their own family because they were forbidden from seeing their partner. Some have gone as far as poisoning or even stabbing family members for this reason. They also turn against their long-time friends, fighting with them or opposing them for the sake of someone who has only recently entered their lives as a partner.
Example: When Love Leads to Lies: How Teen Relationships Impact Family Bonds
Like Ramesh and Rina, both school students, who used to lie to their parents to get money so they could buy each other gifts. One day, Ramesh’s parents found out, and when they tried to explain things to him, Ramesh turned against his own family and began to see them as his biggest enemy. This is something we often see: people in such situations tend to go against their own parents.
When Love Fades: The Power and Pitfall of Expectations
“But do you know? This isn’t really love. It’s just a feeling built on expectations that can turn you against everyone else. These feelings don’t have any basis in reality. They’re simply stories we create in our minds, based on our hopes. And when these hopes aren’t met, when expectations grow too high between two people, fights and arguments begin, eventually leading to separation. People who once felt ready to give up everything for each other, who even stood against the world together, now don’t want to be near each other, or even see one another. The faces that once felt precious now seem strange and wrong. What was once everything to them now feels like nothing. They start to criticize each other, regret the day they first met, call themselves foolish for falling in love, even for getting married. Some go so far as to call love itself meaningless. This is the unfortunate end of feelings based on expectations
Example – I’m not going to give you any example at all because I want you to find one yourself and then let me know in the comments below! Think about it—can you come up with an answer?
True Love vs. Social Media Fantasies – A Reality Check
All this is because of social media. We believe whatever we see on social media is true and forget that much of it is false. Social media has trapped us in a fake world where everything seems real, but in reality, nothing is genuine. Today, our mindset has become quite misguided, and it’s time to correct it. This is the right moment to understand that life can’t always run on expectations. We’ll explain what true love really is in our next blog.
Some questions that I’d like your thoughts on in the comments.
- Did they truly love each other?
- Was it really love that made you take wrong steps?
- Why don’t people realize that taking the wrong path never leads to the right outcome?
- Why don’t people think that the sacrifices parents make without expecting anything in return shouldn’t be hurt?
- How can someone be happy after hurting those who care the most?
- And why don’t people understand that if someone is willing to betray their own family for you today, they might do the same to you tomorrow?”